What did Bonham and I do over winter break? We made it snow in the playroom. Colorful, wonderful snowflakes. A few each day.
The survey. All the cool kids are doing it, so I figured I would too….
1. What did you do in 2010 that you had never done before?
I started this blog. I had never done anything like this. No journals or diaries. No creative writing. Nothing. This is all new to me.
2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions and will you make more for next year?
I didn’t make any last year. This year I made these.
3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
I know of several people who had babies…but no one in my immediate circle.
4. Did anyone close to you die?
Yes. Brian’s Grandmother Ruby, and a dear friend Tara.
5. What countries did you visit?
6. What would you like to have in 2011 that you lacked in 2010?
I’d like more balance. Less stress and more of a balance in my life. Hard to explain.
7. What dates from 2010 will remain etched upon your memory and why?
I have no idea what the date was, but the first time I picked Bonham up in the preschool carpool line was amazing. He has been to school before, but this was the first carpool. Seeing the independence and confidence in him was amazing.
8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
I’m not sure. I guess figuring out how to be a SAHM and also do some part time work. Finding time for everything.
9. What was your biggest failure?
Allowing too much small shit to bother me. Expecting too much from relationships that are what they are. They may not be perfect, but that are what they are. I need to stop trying to change them.
10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
11. What was the best thing you bought?
My city flats from Gap. I wear them all the time. Such a simple purchase, but I love them.
12. Whose behavior merited celebration?
Bonham – he is learning so much and growing so much. I am so proud of him. And RBB, he is working hard to help his business, yet still finds time to be an amazing dad and husband.
13. Whose behavior appalled and depressed?
Unfortunately, a lot. Critical and negative people. People who are small minded and judgemental. No need to detail it more than that. Many of them are in politics. And the women at that gave this mom a hard time. They depress me.
14. Where did most your money go?
Starbucks – Bonham loves Pumkin Loaf. House stuff. Bills. Travel. Cars stickers for some dumb sticker book I bough Bonham that he obsessed over for weeks.
15. What did you get really excited about?
Each new stage in Bonham’s life. I love watching him grow. People say “enjoy it now while he’s little”…but honestly, I love each new stage. I love seeing him grow and change.
16. What song will remind you of 2010?
The CARS soundtrack. We listen to it daily. Kill me now.
17. Compared to this time last year are you happier or sadder, thinner or fatter, richer or poorer?
Happier – more sleep made a huge difference.
After Bonham said last night “mommy, it looks like you have a baby in your tummy, it is sticking out” I guess I’ll go with fatter.
Richer or poorer – well, about the same I think.
18. What do you wish you had done more of?
19. What do you wish you had done less of?
Less worry about the small stuff. Less guilt.
20. How did you spend Christmas?
I wrote about our holidays here on A Hasty Life. Sorry – too lazy to rewrite it all. I know, I suck.
21. Did you fall in love in 2010?
Hard to answer. Not with anything new, but more and more with my son and husband. Yes…I stole this answer from AK.
22. What was your favorite TV program?
23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
Hate? No, I don’t think so. Annoyed by many, hate few.
24. What was the best book you read?
26. What did you want and get?
A part time job I can do from home.
27. What did you want and not get?
A new house.
28. What was your favorite film of this year?
29. What did you do on your birthday and how old were you?
Went to Ethiopian food with some friends. 35 years old.
30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
More balance, less stress.
31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2010?
I tried to do less “in the middle”. I either get dressed, or I stay in work out clothes. Less outfits that make me feel frumpy.
32. What kept you sane?
Writing this blog.
33. What political issue stirred you the most?
I’d love to answer this, but then it would take over my blog. So I won’t. But lots did.
34. Who did you miss?
Kate. Estelle. Melissa. My sisters and brother. My mom. My Zade.
35. Who was the best new person you met?
Amanda from Tipsy Society. She and I can have 3 conversations going on at once. One on e-mail, one on twitter and one text…and they will be all different subjects. I just love her.
Emily from Notorious MLE. We share an obsession with food. And much more too.
Torrie from A Place to Share. She has had lots of great advice for me. My son and her son are a lot a like. So being able to bounce ideas off her and vent to her has been great.
36. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2010.
I haven’t yet learned it, but as you see in a few answers here…I am trying for more balance in my life. And less guilt and stress. And I need to realize that not all relationships are perfect. They each are what they are. Some can be worked on and changed. Others cannot and need to be accepted as is.
37. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
Old song. And I wrote about it and others here. But it’s the one that works best here.
“There’s more than one answer to these questions pointing me in crooked line. The less I seek my source for some definitive, the closer I am to fine.”
The less I try and control my life. The better I am. Accept people for who they are. Accept myself for who I am. See the best in life, not the worst. Not sure if it sums up my year, but all things I have been working on and will continue to work on.
Can someone please explain these to me? These are on sale for $99. Yes, originally they were $330. Seriously!?!?
And this takes the term “Bib Necklace” to an entirely new level.
I’m fairly confused by these.
And these I kind of want. Maybe I’ve been looking at this site too long. Need to stop now.
Thank you Shopbop.com. You are always a pleasure to browse.
Like everyone else, I want to get back into shape and lose some pounds after the holidays. If this is one of your goals too….check out Jennie over at She Likes Purple. She has a challenge out to everyone to join her in losing weight…and there is a cash prize. Whoo Hoo. I’d join, but my goal is to be in shape by my trip to Mexico and that is a bit before her contest ends. So I opted out, but you should opt in. It is a great idea, and fun too. It starts Jan 3rd, so head over there and check it out.
Anyway, as for me. Last time around the diet train I did Weight Watchers and used their iPhone ap. I loved it. I think they have a great program. But this time I wanted to try something else, and something free. I found, well my friend Shalla found, the My Fitness Pal ap. Love it. Not only does it have tons of foods and exercises programmed into it, but in addition to allowing me track my calories, it also tracks how much water I drink (I can go an entire day without any, and I pay the price at the end of the day with a monster headache, so maybe tracking it will encourage me to drink more), AND it tracks the nutrients. This is probably not major news, I am sure many aps out there do it, but this is the one I am using. Funny fact, while I apparently don’t get enough Vitamin A, I am at about double my fiber needs…I’m a total fiber whore. I buy and eat anything that says it has added fiber. Need some suggestions on what to buy, here you go.
Another thing I like is that when you end the day it tells you “If everyday was like today, you’d weigh XYZ in 5 weeks.” Total motivator. Not sure what it says when you exceed your calories for the day. I’m sure I’ll find out on New Year’s Eve.
I think if you have never seriously dieted before, WW is a great tool. Since the points are calculated off calories, fat grams AND fiber, it helps you to learn what foods are “good” foods to eat. Since I already know that in addition to looking for low cal, I should look for high fiber and low fat, I feel ok trying it this time with a new program, but keeping in mind the Weight Watchers ways.
I was/am just excited about my new ap, so I wanted to share. Hopefully none of you consumed the boatloads that I did over the past few months and none of you are faced with weight loss goals right now. Wouldn’t it be great to wake up new years day and think, “I’m right on track, no need to change my habits at all”…hahahahaha…yea, that’s not going to happen for me.
Emily from Notorious MLE and Torrie from A Place to Share have joined me in this Listography project. We all bought the book, created by Lisa Nola…and you can too. It is here at Chronicle Books. And now every Wednesday we will post our list. Over there to the right, on my sidebar, there is a link that will give you all the topics. There will also be a place each week where you can link up and share with everyone your list! So please, join us!!!
And so up first…..
List Your Goals For The New Year.
Blah…I mean…blah. Could this project start with a worse list? Anyway…here goes.
I have 3 main goals for 2011. Aside from the usual goals of eating better, working out, having more patience…you know…aside from those of course.
One: I used to send birthday cards and anniversary cards and all that. When Bonham was born that stopped. I want to start it again.
Two: I want to keep my closets, pantry and cupboards organized. I don’t ever want to feel like I need a major overhaul of those places. If I put on a shirt and hate the way it looks, I want it into the Goodwill pile that day. If I am putting away laundry, I want to put it away. No just putting it in a pile in my closet. Empty boxes in the pantry need to be thrown out immediately. The hardest part of this will be my cupboard that holds my casserole dishes and mixing bowls. That thing goes downhill quickly. My goals is to put the medium bowl in the middle, between the large and small bowls…not balance it on top because I am too lazy to put it away properly.
Three: I want to try and learn to cook new things…specifically I want to try experimenting with alternative grains…quinoa, farro…things like that. I want to try and incorporate them into our weekly meals. Anyone have any recipes for me?
So what do you think? Have you written a goal list? Do you have a post written about it? Then link up! Click on the widget below and link to your post. No blog post? No problem…share your list in the comments.
See you guys next Wednesday…up next, books that made you cry.
I am curious, do you guys send thank you notes? I used to be great at sending them. RBB’s family used to laugh at me for sending them to them, so I stopped for a while. And then I got kind of lazy and was only sending them part of the time. Having Bonham now, I am back writing them consistently. And now that he can sign them and understands what they are, I feel that writing them is more important than ever.
I usually just name the post and be done…but today I wanted to share all the lyrics. It is one of my favorite songs. At our wedding, our maid of honor Kate sang while our best man Jack played guitar to this song. It was the father/daughter dance.
Kind and Generous – Natalie Merchant
La la la la…
You’ve been so kind and generous
I don’t know how you keep on giving
For your kindness I’m in debt to you
For your selflessness my admiration
For everything you’ve done you know I’m bound
I’m bound to thank you for it
La la la la…
You’ve been so kind and generous
I don’t know how you keep on giving
For your kindness I’m in debt to you
And I never could have come this far without you
For everything you’ve done, you know I’m bound
I’m bound to thank you for it
Oh, I want to thank you for so many gifts you gave
The love, the tenderness, I wanna thank you
I want to thank you for your generosity, the love
And the honesty that you gave me
I want to thank you show my gratitude
My love, and my respect for you, I want to thank you
Oh, I want to thank you, thank you; thank you, thank you
I want to thank you, thank you; thank you, thank you
What was the best gift you received this holiday season? For me, it was this…
By the way, I have been pinning after these pillowcases since June. Maybe I will get them as a Valentine’s Day gift from RBB or for RBB. Or maybe both – from us to us.
As far as movies that are centered around Christmas time, The Family Stone is my favorite. I laugh, I cry, I love it.
Diane Keaton and Craig T Nelson as the parents….come on…perfection. Plus, he’s Coach.
Sarah Jessica Parker – love. the scene where she dances in the bar totally makes me smile.
Dermot Mulroney – love. and adorable.
Luke Wilson – love. and again, adorable.
Claire Daines – eh…maybe not love, but in this I like her.
Elizabeth Reaser – who went on to play Jane Doe/Ava/Rebecca in Grey’s Anatomy
Rachel McAdams – love. She’s perfection in this.
The dinner scene and the charades scene…both make me sooo uncomfortable. And they both make me laugh. And cry. The part where SJP’s character gives everyone a picture of the mom. Tears. Ok really….I just really love this movie.
In keeping with tradition, I plan to air my grievances….hold on to your hats folks….
In Oklahoma I often hear “office” used as a verb. For example, “where do you office?”, or more commonly “where do you office at?” Let’s ignore the “at” for a moment…although that grates on me too. But people, office is not a verb!!!!!!! I’ve even seen signs advertising “Office with us”. What the hell?
The phrase is “could NOT care less.” If you said “I could care less” that means that you could in fact care less.
If you are going to the post office, package your shit before you get to the counter. They are not there to box up your crap. If you want that, go to one of those packing places. The post office doesn’t do that. Why doesn’t everyone know this?
Airport security. Come on people. I can get through with a cranky toddler faster than most people. Why do you have change in your pocket to begin with? Leave it in the car or whatever. Belt off, shoes off, jacket off. If in doubt, just take it off. It isn’t that hard.
This one is going to get me in trouble…but…if you have more than one child, stop telling me how much harder it is than one child. Whatever, maybe it is, maybe it isn’t. Some things are harder and some are easier – but here is the thing, you chose to have more than one. Unless you are part of some immaculate conception, you decided to have another child. Plus, this isn’t a competition – ok…maybe it’s harder, whatever, just stop telling me.
Ok. I think that is it for my grievances. Head over to And You Know What Else to read -R-’s list. She’s celebrating Festivus with me. Do you have a grievance to air? Leave a comment…it will feel great to let it out. I promise!
Up next, the traditional feats of strength…
Happy Festivus Everyone.