We are not alone…

June 28, 2012 by 12 Comments

This may seem random, or maybe not at all. But here it is. We are not alone. Any of us. And I think that is a massively important thing to know and one that will help each of us navigate the day. When Bonham was a baby and never slept, it helped me when I was able to step back and think…I am not the only one out there that was up all night with a crying kid. I am not alone.

When Bonham had tantrums, I had friends lining up to tell me that they had been there or that they were there.

When I was struggling with fertility…I had to get out of my own head. Out of my bubble. I needed to realize I wasn’t on an island. What I was dealing with sucked. And it felt huge and all consuming. But I wasn’t the only one out there going through it.

It sucks to work an 80+ hour week. I get it. I have been there. I know people who are there.

Relationships take work. Not every day is easy.

Babies die. Miscarriages. Illness. Accidents.

We have all struggled to make decisions, to make ends meet, to make amends.

We have all felt things that consume us. Things that seem so big. Things that make us feel the “why me?” and the “this happened TO me.”

But very little is unique to just us. It has happened to others. Probably at that same second.

We are not alone. None of us.

Why am I writing this? I don’t know. A text from one friend with amazing, wonderful news. Moments later a text from another with devastating, terrible news.

Neither of them are alone. I find solace in that. Strength in numbers. Comfort in groups. Someone out there has it better than you, and someone has it worse. But someone also has it the same.

I don’t know…random Wednesday night thoughts….

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  • RachelShingleton

    I love everything about this. I’ve finally started opening my mouth and talking about fertility issues, and in addition to finding a support system, I’m also just really, well, relieved. THere’s something about getting it out of your system. Saying it out loud.

  • http://twitter.com/cooper_house CooperHouse

    I love that you post things like this. I find comfort in solidarity too.

  • http://torriesessions.blogspot.com/ Torrie @ a place to share…

    years ago, when i was going through a really rough time, my mom gave me an audio tape (yes, *tape :) ) of the dalai lama. having gone to religious schools (which don’t exactly promote this type of reading), i wasn’t familiar with him or his concepts. i loved the tape (and him), but one of the ideas (truths) that stuck out most, was this concept that we are NOT alone- in anything (no matter how difficult) that we are going through. this brought a tremendous sense of comfort, at a time when not much else did.

  • Estelle

    Well said, sister. All of it. It’s so true. Knowing and feeling and believing that we are not alone on our journey can make all the difference.

  • Leigh

    Thank you for writing this. It really helps to know that we are never alone.

  • http://www.saltandpineblog.com/ katie//salt+pine

    So true. One of the most comforting things to know whether celebrating or grieving…

  • Josie

    Danielle, it’s always good to know there are others out there. Sometimes it’s like you know EXACTLY what I need to read.
    xo Josie

  • gorillabuns

    this is the beauty of blogging and sharing. meeting others who get you and stand with you through the good and the bad.

    and I am so very sorry for the bad.:) xoxoxo

  • Melissa J.

    this post couldn’t have been better timed, really really needed to be reminded this week…xo

  • http://fashionsmaven.blogspot.com/ Katie

    This is something I definitely need to remember. It’s way too easy getting stuck in my head and feeling sorry for myself. Good or bad, you’ll never go through something in life that hasn’t already happened to someone else.

  • bestie

    thank you for this post. so good for all of us to hear and i know that the words just flowed right out of your heart. it’s post like these that keep me tuned in and appreciate all my blogging besties. xo

  • http://twitter.com/sassafrassblog Melissa

    I just stumbled upon this post and I have to echo some of the other comments. Sometimes a girl is lucky enough to read something at the exact moment she needs to! :)