Silly Talk

September 19, 2012 by 5 Comments

Bonham is starting to come home more and more doing things that he picked up at school. By that I sadly do not mean the listening or cleaning up after himself. He is starting to imitate his friends more. The goofy/silly talk is the one that he is doing the most. He has a few friends who are goofy and silly and he loves it. I am totally ok with him doing this. Ok, “totally ok” is a lie. I am actually not really ok with it at all, hence the post. I am fine with it in controlled situations. If he wants to be a goof ball while playing with friends that I am ok with, but when speaking to me, I am not a fan. And I certainly do not want him doing it at all in the classroom. We had a long talk this week about when it is ok to act silly and when it isn’t. I don’t want him imitating his way into being class clown. I know, I am such a buzz kill.

I think it is the baby talk and made up words that bother me. He has a greeat vocabulary (caution: braggy mommy) and very good diction. I don’t want his teachers or coaches to hear him and think he doesn’t. Is that wrong? He has a family member who STILL, yes still, speaks to him in broken English baby talk sometimes. Mind you, Bonham hasn’t spoken like that since he was maybe 2…but none the less it is spoken to him. Now he is saying it back to that person and even saying it when they aren’t around. It bothers me. He knows the right words and how to say them, is it wrong for me to expect him to use them? Or am I just a huge controlling pain in the ass mom who needs to chill out?

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  • gorillabuns

    I think you are just fine. There is nothing wrong with expectations.

  • Josie

    It’s always good to set high expectations! Hopefully this is just a phase.
    xo Josie
    http://www.winksmilestyle.com

  • Melissa J.

    oh how I struggle with this too & finding that balance has been a challenge. I actually bought Dylan a tape recorder so he can go to his room and record himself being as silly & crack himself up listening to it….;)

  • Estelle

    Baby talk blows! Don’t feel guilty about setting reasonable expectations for him. Let him know that it’s perfectly o.k. to be silly and play with different voices (when it’s play time) but when talking with adults and while in the classroom, sports field, etc. he will need to use his regular voice and speak in full sentances with eye contact. Ug, total pet peeve of mine. But don’t do it if you’re worried about what people think. His coaches and teachers know him and work with kids all day. It’s totally normal.

  • http://aboutlastweekend.com/ Jody Brettkelly

    I totally agree with you – loathe baby talk, its like fingers on a chalkboard to me! Mind you its very beguiling to be the class clown. We’ve spent years trying to get the kids to do the eye contact and full sentences (not always successfully) its very tricky!